Lisa Nichols talks about the three different types of relationships that we women find ourselves in.

I am a fan of Lisa Nichols. She is a transformational speaker who seems to live up to her title in more ways than one. She oozes excitement and happiness. You probably know her from "The Secret" video that was publicized on Oprah years ago. She is also the author of a book entitled No Matter What! (review to come).

While browsing her high-powered motivational videos on Youtube I came across the video below, in which she discusses the three different types of relationships. She also discusses why she isn't so eager to rush into marriage with anyone as she enjoys, explores and experiences her life. I think this discussion is a great followup to my recent articles Young Black Women: There's More to Life Than Finding a Man (Yea I Said It) and Black Women Who Found Love Later in Life AFTER Establishing Themselves

Lisa Nichols' Book No Matter What!

A few key points she brings up (see the whole video below):

1) Some men come into your life for a short time so that you can feel alive again or so that you can learn healthy boundaries, to show you your worth or to teach you a lesson about yourself.

2) When a relationship ends, say it is complete. It has run its course and you have gotten what you need to get from it. 

3) Every guy you meet and click with isn't meant to be your husband!

The most important of her points was her discussion of the three types of relationships.

To summarize, they are:

1) Life-giving (he comes into your life to let you know "you still got it")
2) Lifetime (the one you'll probably be with forever)
3) Purposeful (you came together for a reason or purpose, such as having children, learning something about yourself, etc. When that purpose is fulfilled the relationship must end eventually, even if you resist for a time, so that you can move onto the next phase in your life.)

She estimates that 80% of people are in a purposeful relationship and many just don't want to let go when it has served its purpose.

See the video below.

The conversation with Lisa Nichols begins at 2:49