Who said you have to find a man and get married by 30 (or else)? Here is a list of black women over 40 years old who found love later on in life, and guess what? They seem happy!

As women we are constantly pressured to find a man and get married at age 25 (no later than 30!) or else it's all over for us, but guess what? A lot of women 40 and up are finding the "one," getting married and living awesome lives. If you've been beating yourself up about not being able to find someone special, maybe you should just... stop doing that. The pressure is what causes a lot of young women to jump into bad relationships where they are being abused, used for their resources and taken for granted.

There is some evidence that people who get married later on in life tend to have longer, more fulfilling marriages. That's because the couple has had time to explore, find out what they want, establish themselves and learn who they are.

Many black women have an added benefit because melanin in the skin keeps you looking young. So a black lady can be 50 years old and still look 30. That is a major asset.

The main point is, your chances of finding love don't disappear when you turn 30 years old. And you can have love even if you've chosen to prioritize your career and pursue your dreams.
Without further ado, I present to you a list of black women who found love and marriage later on in life after establishing their careers.

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Mellody Hobson

Mellody Hobson is 43 years old as of this posting. She is a very successful woman in the financial field who made her own money at a young age. She is now the President of Ariel Investments, a billion-dollar financial firm. She was named one of Ebony magazine's "20 Leaders of the Future" and one of The Wall Street Journal's 50 "Women to Watch."

43-year old Ms. Hobson
has been dating film producer George Lucas for over seven years and is now engaged to be married.

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Janet Jackson 

Janet Jackson (Ms. Jackson if you're nasty!) is 46 years old as of this posting. She has been through a number of failed public relationships, including one with Jermaine Dupri, who let her slip right through his fingers and two marriages that ended in divorce (James DeBarge and Rene Elizondo).

After a very successful career in music, television and film, Ms. Jackson is now married to Wissam Al Mana, a wealthy billionaire.

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Naomi Campbell

Naomi Campbell is 42 years old. Not everyone is happy about the fact that she is in a relationship with Russian businessman Vladislav Doronin because she met him while he was still married, but reports state that he and his wife were separated for 10 years before the relationship began. Nonetheless, Naomi seems to have now found love at 42

Naomi strutted that catwalk like she owned it for years and made her money. Now she can enjoy her own personal wealth while living the good life in Moscow with her long-time boyfriend.

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Halle Berry

When you think of failed celebrity relationships, Halle Berry is somewhere up there at the top of the list. Halle was one of those women who seemed so desperate for love that she jumped into a new one like it was an inviting pool of water. 

But at the age of 46 (as of this posting), Halle is now engaged to be married to Olivier Martinez, a French actor who is willing to fight for her (literally).

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Angela Bassett
She was about 38 when she got married, but actress Angela Bassett is still a great example of how you can still find love when you get older after establishing your career. Angela is a queen among black women, having nailed a number of important acting roles, including her portrayals of Tina Turner in What's Love Got to Do With It and Betty Shabazz in Malcolm X.

Sister did her thing, made her money, still looks great, and at 54 she is still with her husband actor Courtney B. Vance.


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Tina Turner

As of this posting, Tina Turner is 73 years old ya'll, and still looks about 40. She got married at a fairly young age, and we all know how that story goes. No need to elaborate.

But she persevered. She built a successful music career, made her millions, achieved legend status and then moved to Switzerland to enjoy the good life. At 73 Ms. Turner is getting married to her long-time beau, Erwin Bach, who is almost 20 years younger.

There are plenty more older black women who aren't as famous who are finding love later on in life. So when you are feeling down and out about not finding the right one for you, just remember these women; our older sisters and elders. They found love, marriage and happiness with their mates at 40+.  Of course, no one can predict the future and whether these unions are forever, but the point is that their opportunities for meeting someone special didn't cease at age 30. 

Keep in mind that a lot of women who force marriage at age 25 become miserable because they were way too eager and focused on finding a man. Don't be like them.

Relax. Enjoy your life as a single woman. Hang with friends. Listen to motivational videos. Watch positive or educational media (movies, TV shows, Netflix etc). Work on your business idea.

When you have a "no pressure" mentality, you are less likely to settle for scraps. 

You deserve "simply the best" baby.



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